Monday, November 2, 2009

Morsels and Crumbs....

I always feel like I leave things incomplete on this blog. I hate loose ends. Although my life consists mainly of fragments, parts and incomplete thought processes, I hate dumping my rants out here and then not following up.

Here are a few tied-up ends... in the event you wondered. Which I'm sure you didn't.

--With all the hullabaloo I've made about my in-laws, I have spent the past few months taking proactive measures to create something called boundaries. As elementary as that seems to most people over the age of 15, it's new to me. My much-younger neighbor has slowly, over the course of a few bottles of wine consumed on my deck, offered me tutelage to the path of boundaries in my life. I really owe a whole life turn-around to her. I've decided that 14 years of boundaryless interactions with the people who spawned my husband, is enough and have purchased books--"workbooks" if you will-- for myself and Mr Hyphen to use as a tool. I'm currently working with another amazing woman who is striving to help me save my marriage from the clutches of somebody else's control. I'm hoping it'll be a more enjoyable holiday season with some new ground rules in place. Mr Hyphen is on board. He doesn't have much of a choice, does he? In the few short months, we've already come leaps and bounds from where we were. It makes me uber happy.


--I recently fell into the dark side of Facebook. I'll be honest and tell you that it had nothing to do with wanting to be on Facebook and more to do with the part where Mr Hyphen joined up and I hopped on and noticed that a few of his friends were attractive woman, who call him cute little nicknames. Presumably, women who are also pilots and his co-workers. He says none are his former girlfriends (why do I always type girlfiend??). So basically I was marking my territory... peeing on him, so to speak. Within 20 hours or so, I was really over it. I don't get it. Basically the few friends I have on FB, I've also got their email addresses and we're all on each other's Christmas card lists. So, when a college roommate writes on my wall "HOW ARE YOU?????", I'm thinking "Really? You've got my email address, and I haven't heard from you since last Christmas... are you really that concerned about my well being? Is it the equivalent of the cashier asking me how I am when I'm buying groceries?" Rhetoric. I don't get it. My very favorite part was when I chose the Married To category and selected Mr Hyphen, it said he'd have to confirm that we're in a relationship. Later that day he emailed me telling me he wondered what kind of trouble he'd get into if he ignored that request. Either way, we've both agreed that we won't post pictures of our kids' faces. I know--it's like being the equivalent of Wilson on Home Improvement,
but it is what it is. I want the oohs and aaahs of the cuteness of my kids as much as the next mom, but I'm not willing to have people (even people I've "friended") doing who-knows-what with pictures of my kids. Oh, that and the whole FB owns the rights to photos posted on its site crap. Blah, blah, blah.




--In other news, FB has delivered irrefutable evidence that "the one that got away" actually got away because the Universe was saving me from myself. Although he, himself, would never in a million years use a computer and have a profile on FB, his lovely new wife is on FB and was kind enough to use a profile photo that shows them both. *raises face to the heavens and thanks all that is holy that he got away*


--Mr Hyphen has somehow wrangled himself a schedule for the month of November that has him oncall in the city of Denver. I KNOW! I'm not positive how it'll work out, but I think it means we'll see him more than a handful of hours each week. I'm pretty excited, actually. It means I'll have to rethink my grocery shopping again. And it'll mean a whole new drama at the beginning of December when he isn't around as much... again. But I'll take what I can get, because have I mentioned that absence has made my heart grown fonder? Um, a lot fonder.


--My gluten free lifestyle is having its good moments and its bad moments. I'm confused when I'm successful for several days, then out of nowhere my hands, and skin and eyes start to itch and I realize that I must have introduced something with gluten back in. The odd thing is that on Halloween, I partook in far too many Reece's Peanut Butter cups...and there was no itching of any kind. What gives? I eat things that I know aren't gluten free and there's no itching... I eat what I've declared gluten free (based on the 17 websites and email lists I'm referencing) and it sends me into an allergic reaction? Is it possible to be allergic to not consuming gluten? Yeah, probably not.




14 Witty Retorts:

HalfAsstic.com said...

Allergic to NOT eating gluten... Huh, I'd like to think so, but no, probably not.
Facebook is something I'm just getting drug into and I still don't know how I feel about it, either. Some people from my loooong ago past have surfaced and made contact. They have "friend-ed" me and to the best of my recollection we were anything but friends the last time I was acquainted with them. Don't really know what to do now.

LceeL said...

As soon as I finish this comment I'm going over to FB and see if I can find you - and friend you - because you know I love you, right?

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Ali said...

I'm so glad you're establishing those boundaries. They are so important. Making sure my hubs understood that was really important for me. My MIL gets it now and she's much better. I can almost tolerate her!
Maybe it's not gluten but something else you need to remove from your diet?

Miss Ash said...

So, um... you should be my FB friend. :D

Fishsticks and Fireflies said...

You are my hero. I just thought you should know.

(And despite enjoying Facebook, I still can't forget that it has cost me the expense of a baby shower, a drive to Longmont, a dinner I hosted, and a few hours of sleep. Damn 'the latest trend'.)

Shelly said...

Good luck with your boundary setting! I'd love to hear more about that.

Glad you got Mr. Hyphen reigned in on FB!

Anonymous said...

I hate facebook. I'm there cause,
Well I am.
Greatly admire u 4 taking charge of
Ur situation with the evil in laws.
It good to b back in the country. I
Missed ur stuff and ur outlook.

Warriorwoman

witchypoo said...

I never keep a facebook tab open anymore. I think I'm over it. And? Yay for boundaries.

tiff(threeringcircus) said...

I'm on Facebook.
Sometimes.

Sorry I've been a slacker with comments.

Thank you for not being like me.

Talina said...

Facebook is great for finding those that got away and for making you thankful about it... LOL

What exactly are the reactions to being allergic to gluten? N and E have these weird dry spots on them that itch and never go away... Gluten allergy?

Kristin said...

I think the reeses are okay. I indulge when watching a movie at the theater. Not just a few, but the whole oversized package, and it always makes me very happy.

Veronica said...

You've been quiet lately, I hope everything is okay.

Kathy said...

New to your blog, but I've flicked back through the archives and read a few of your in-law posts. Woweee. I think you are doing SOOOO the right thing by establishing boundaries with them.

I have no FIL, as he died years before I met my husband. My MIL and SIL, however, are ... problematic ... in our lives. So, to be completely fair, is my own mother, in different ways. MIL and SIL are self-absorbed, needy types who expect all to be done to their specifications - and both are horrifically insensitive in what they say, which is water off a duck's back to me but really hurts my tender-hearted 6-year-old daughter, which steams me up NO END. My mother isn't needy, is really great with the kids (cannot fault her care or kindness to them) and helps me a lot physically, but the help comes with strings - she is unceasing in her implicit judgements of our parenting and life choices (and the judgements are often negative).

We've decided we need to set boundaries, too, but I'm still working out how to do it.